Wednesday, June 15, 2016

What Your Mom Never Told You About Being an Adult


This week, I celebrated my 35th birthday. With 2 kids, a full time job, an SUV, a mortgage and even a dog - I think it is safe to say I am elbow-deep into this adult stuff. Remember when you were a kid, and you would say, 'I can't wait to grow up!'? Funny, right? My dear friend Amanda over at Growing Up Madison is guest-posting for me during my birthday week. Isn't she the greatest? (SHE IS! Go check her out!) This is a great read for those who maybe are just graduating this month from college or those who are just getting their feet wet out in 'the real world'. ENJOY!


One moment you are a teenager, enjoying life and thinking about what to do on Friday night. The next moment you are heading off to college, getting ready to advance your education so you can start your career. Moments go by in the blink of an eye and before you know it you are an adult out on your own in this world.There are many things we grow up to realize that we were never told about being an adult, here are just a few things that your mom never told you about being an adult:

You Can’t Stay Up All Night And Function – no more are the days of youth when you could pull an all-nigher and still function properly the next day.

It Will Take Time To Find The Right Job – your dream job will not land in your lap, it will take many job changes before you find the right job that suits you. You also need to work hard to get there.

You May Still Need Your Mom – no matter how independent you are, there will still be times that you need your Mom and that’s okay.


Friendships Are Hard Work – as an adult living your own life, keeping friendships will become hard work, you will have to learn to balance responsibilities with friendships.

Changing Your Mind Is Okay – even adults aren’t fully sure of what they are doing, you will change your mind frequently based on experiences and that is okay.

Making Mistakes Is Inevitable – no matter how careful you are as an adult, mistakes will still be made, it’s simply part of the human being makeup.

Second Guessing Will Happen – you may second guess anything that you ever dreamed to be as an adult; learn to be okay with moving forward in a new direction if necessary.


You Need To Learn To Cook – while my own mom taught me how to cook, I've had a few friends who stated that their own mom didn't teach them. Knowing how to cook nutritious meals, with vegetables, will become a necessary component in your life, finances won’t allow for you to eat out on a regular basis. It also isn't good for you!

Nothing Will Seem 100% Perfect – whether it’s a job, relationships or friendships there is not one thing in life that will ever be 100% perfect.

Living With Your Parents Happens – life can throw you a curve-ball and you may end up living with your parents again. And this is OK.


The older you get in life, the more you realize that your mom never told you a variety of things about being an adult. Remember your Mom is only a human being, she couldn’t teach you everything. Moms do their best to lead by example, take a moment to think about everything your mom never told you about being an adult and take time to see that maybe she was simply protecting you, as Moms do.


Let's discuss: What other things can you add to the list that your own mom never told you about being an adult? 

18 comments:

  1. Oh I definitely still need my mom. I am deep into the adult thing and whenever I am sick, I crave her tea and sick toast.

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  2. Man, I'm a grown woman with a family of my own and I definitely realized that I've turned into my mom. I will call her and tell her she's right and she'd rub it in my face haha!

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  3. It is always true, no matter how old you get, you still need your mom. I'm 41 and I still find myself asking my mom about this or that, and she seems to always be right.

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  4. Yeah I really don't remember that my mom never told me that I couldn't stay up all night and function. She also never told me that making friends would be hard work either. I thought it would be easy but the older you get the harder it really is.

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  5. You're list is very thorough. I can't think of anything I would add. Wait. I would add life is too short to not love yourself and all that you are.

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  6. hahah thanks for this!! you know, sometimes we think we are alone in this thing called adulting! totally agree with these points | thuli mac

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  7. You can't stay up all night and function - I wish someone would tell my kids that :-) With three littles, they seem to take turns on which nights they don't want to sleep. Taking time for yourself, and not being afraid to say no are what I would throw in.

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  8. adulting really is very hard. I wish for the days when I was younger and able to wile away the weekend doing nothing.

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  9. Oh, how I miss the halcyon days of my youth! My mom actually told me many of these things while growing up, but I didn't know how true her words were until I started experiencing adulthood myself.

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  10. I don't have much good from my mom, but I can say that she taught me what not to do which has led to me having a much better relationship with my children. I make sure to listen and get to know them as people.

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  11. My mom never told me any of these things. Sadly, I know more of what not to do for whenever I have children. Just because someone is young, their feelings and thoughts shouldn't be invalidated or made to feel like they are wrong (no matter how silly they may be in retrospect).

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  12. The cooking part. For sure the cooking part. My mom never taught me, in fact, she hates it and I hated it. But now I am "adulting" and I want my kids to be healthy so I am teaching myself to learn to love cooking.

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  13. You will need to learn to apologize A LOT to get the most out of your relationships. Always apologize first and you can't no matter how hard you try control some else's behavior - including your own children!

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  14. OMG I'm so glad I read this list and the part that mentions having to live with your parents. Between this post and the statistic that more than 30% of millennial are living with their parents I don't feel so bad. San Diego is so expensive!

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  15. This is so relatable! I'm not adulting quite as much as you, but there are so many new things I am trying to figure out. I can definitely relate to needing sleep. I used to be able to stay up all night and now if I don't get enough sleep, I literally cannot function the next day.

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  16. Omg definitely agree with this list!!!! Friendships are definitely a lot of work! I swear get take more work than marriage sometimes lol

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  17. I disagree that you can't stay up all night and function lol. I have a really odd sleep schedule and manage to stay up and function well lol :)

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  18. Was nodding throughout this list. You did a good job with it. My mom never told me to love myself. Not that I hate her for not telling me. Just that I feel I would have turned out better. I would have avoided some of the booby relationship traps I led myself into. Now, I know. Self-love, baby. It's the most important thing in my life right now. Because I know I cannot give what I don't have. I can only love others when I love myself.

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