Saturday, July 23, 2016

What I Have Learned About Life from My Single Friends

So I have been married since like 1786.  OK not THAT long! I would be dead and writing to you from beyond the grave. Creepy! I am married to my high school sweetheart. I have really not even dated anyone else. I certainly lucked out and hit the jackpot with Mr. Incredible. While I am living my 2.5 kid life with the dog and the picket fence – not everyone I grew up with went down the same path.

My BFF is single and I often joke that I like to live vicariously through her. But really, I have learned a LOT from her. Probably more she realizes.

  •  If you want something amazing to happen – make it happen! When you are single, you don’t have to ask for permission. You don’t have to wait until someone gets home. You just go out and do it. In my own life, I realize of course that I can’t just go out and buy myself a brand new Mercedes and a yacht because I want to  – but I do sometimes wait for approval from my husband even when he doesn’t even care.

  • Single adults know who they are. When you are in a relationship for as long as I have, or longer, you start to think of the two of you as one person. It is OK to have your own hobbies. In fact – it is encouraged! Spend some time with the girls. Take a class. Don’t lose yourself in your relationship. Send your man out for a guy’s night. Your relationship will be STRONGER because of it.

  •  I head out to the grocery store in yoga pants, flip flops, a pony tail, and zero makeup. My single friends make sure they are put together and lookin’ cute. My one friend told me you NEVER know when you will find ‘the one’. He may come up to you one day in the produce section and say, “Hey nice melons!” So - always make sure you look cute. HA! KIDDING!!!!!  This is one area I think I will continue to very much enjoy. I should really buy some more yoga pants . . .

  • If my single friends are craving tacos – guess what they have for dinner? TACOS! When you have a family, many women will put their family’s dinner preferences first.  “Man I really want chicken tacos tonight but Johnny will only eat beef and Mary doesn’t like tacos at all. Maybe I could make her something else . . .” Suddenly taco night is now taco, spaghetti and, grilled cheese night. You are  now too tired after making 3 meals to even eat your tacos. I now meal plan with my entire family involved. Everyone gets to pick a night to eat their favorite meal – and I only make ONE thing. If you don’t like it – your night is tomorrow. 

  • My single friends are awesome decision makers. They don’t normally have someone else to bounce their ideas off. They weigh the pros and cons, and go for it. I need to learn to go with my gut because usually – it is right!

  • Be patient and wait for the right one - don't settle! Now, of course, I don't mean this in the same respect as my single friends. I have a man and he is the PERFECT one for me. But I can apply this to other areas of my life. For example, I have learned not to take a job just because one thing seems attractive - look at the entire package of what is being offered! 

What is something you have learned about life from one of your friends?


  1. This post is so so true! I have a few single friends and the things you posted are a few things I am a tad bit jealous of. Top of my list...the dinner decision. Oh how I'd love a nice steak.. but kids don't like steak.... lol

  2. I LOVE this article. Of course, it's funny, but I'm also so grateful that I don't have to be "on" anymore for a potential partner. I'm married to my best friend, and the yoga pants are in full effect!

  3. I wish I enjoyed being single when I was. If I had a free day to be single I'd enjoy it! LOL

  4. Sometimes it seems like I envy my friends who are single because they can do whatever they want when they want to. They get to have lots of alone time to recharge and rejuvenate. I always thought they had the best life ever. But when they told me they were envious of me having kids, a cozy home, and a loving husband, I had a sudden sense of fulfillment.

    1. You're right. I think we always want what we do not have. Grass always being greener. ;)

  5. Haha, I definitely envy some things about single life. It's nice to have some single friends and some married friends.

  6. Sometimes it is hard for me to even remember what it was like to be single. It was so much effort to get ready and look cute everywhere I went.

  7. I have a few single mom friends. I honestly do not know how they do it, they are dedicated and inspiring.

  8. I have a few single mom friends & boy do they deserve a medal!!!! It's a hard job parenting when you have a significant other, I couldn't imagine how tough it would be on your own

  9. I love reading this! I've been with my SO for almost 11 years. I was single for a while and honestly? I loved it lol I won't lie. But I also love being a mom and having him in my life. The part about cooking for everyone cracks me up. I grew up where you ate what was served to you or you didn't eat at all. I sort of do that but since we all have the same taste in foods, it is easier to please everyone.

  10. I have been with my husband for almost 14 years and married for 11. I think I lost myself along the way and you're right about starting to think of yourself as one. I sometimes wish I was still single and was saying so just recently. While I'm almost always on the brink of killing him most of the time, it's great to have someone around.